He was present, affectionate, and smart. I can not get this kid out of my head. Historically, men have been providers for women and children, so an older man can provide while a younger woman can bear the kids. She knew exactly what she was doing, and I could make her orgasm pretty much every single time - not because I was some sort of sexual stallion, but because she knew exactly how to get herself off. Jordan is so focused on his career while I still want to drop everything to travel the world.
What is important to me is being with someone who values my need to overanalyze my feelings, who can be totally silly with me in public, and who will love the people I care most deeply for. I have a feeling that as I become more settled in my career, my finances and adulthood the age difference will matter less once again. And the oldest was not a preemie or exactly 9 months after the wedding — the father was a Jehovah's Witness before he joined the Army and hadn't changed much before he married. My initial concern was the age gap. I was all confident and bold inviting him under the haze of a couple vodka sodas, but the next day I worried what people would think about the 24-year-old on the arm of a 32-year-old relationship columnist. The more time passed, the more I liked this person.
I know, that's a lot of details to take in, but think about it — most people would think these two people had nothing in common given their backgrounds. They have an amazing relationship and he adores the crap out of her. More than 50% of medical school graduates are women and more women are running their own businesses. They found me attractive and they liked me. And because of this, more women, especially older women, are opting to date younger men. If you are 50 and he is 36, that difference is huge.
We were just around each other for a couple of months, ended up alone one night, and talked until the sun came up. Whatever was on her mind she would talk about and she would call me out on my faults. I likely acknowledge and discuss our age difference way more than necessary, but after writing and doing on-air segments about dating and relationships for years, I know one needs to just own their situation, no matter what it may be. Though one plus is that he is young so he doesn't have kids, which a lot of guys my age already have. It helps that I am ever so slightly more mature and Jordan is so youthful and playful. She was real, mature, honest, and fun to be with.
The man is a man — whether he is 20 something, 30 something, 40 something — and up — But if you look at a younger man — you need mental health services — It is time people allow couples to make it before they judge them — Demi and Ashton — they are a famous couple that did not make it — -but they had alot of fun trying and were successful for several years. That's what I remember most about them. This model makes some sense in low resource situations or when women have no rights or education. Yes, you read that right: he is over a decade younger than I am. I think that if there is a genuine attraction age should not matter, but I also think we need to be realistic.
I just realized it is almost double the age difference of you two. Plus I always found that, unlike some not all older guys who seem to seek younger because of control issues, younger guys in general, again not all tend to work much harder to show their worth and value. Also if he is studying at university it's rather normal he still lives with his mom. My boyfriend and I are only 3 years apart and I still notice little differences. I think it's a major mistake thinking gaming is for kids only. If you are 40 and he, 26, its still fair.
I felt like a total child for not knowing how our lease worked and for freaking out over nothing. He was easy to be with and to talk to. I love being with someone older than me though. I was a full time nanny, he was the owner of a construction company. Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven. This man—at almost 14 years younger—is light years more respectful, mature, and supportive than my ex, who was my age.
Obviously this is only one person's experience and others will vary, but this is all I could contribute. Eventually I ended it before it became too serious, because at 23 I wasn't ready for marriage or kids and I guess at 33 her clock was ticking, although she never mentioned it. But Question is, how bad is this? At the time, I was telling the truth and I wondered why I had been so judgmental of dating a guy even 5 years older than me before I often refused. I was sick of guys who saw me as a blonde barbie kind of girl, and Jordan was just the opposite. Your situation sounds similar to what I am going through now.
You guys are free to do whatever. I went through a phase of only dating men 8+ years or older, and as much as I loved the lack of bullshit that comes with younger guys, for me I found over time that the day to day struggles and differing experiences really got to me. Times Have Changed With the creation of birth control in the 60s as well as other social changes, more women are going to college and filling the workplace. He is a very straight up, honest type of person. There's a lot of growing up people do in their 20s that he wouldn't have really started yet and I would already be passed that stage.