He's incredibly invested in you as well as the relationship that you have, even if it's not at the level that he's hoping for. Your relationship with your guy best friend has an inherent level of depth because it has nothing to do with physical attraction or appearance. Should you try to make a relationship work? It's a thing where one of you will be there for the other. If your friend goes as far as bad-mouthing your current lover for no good reason and implying that they would do a better job, be careful! If your boyfriend is into indie rock, you'll have to give it a shot, even if it makes your ears feel like they will start bleeding at any given moment. He genuinely likes you for your awesome personality. Of course, don't be weird about it.
And, I promise, when all is said and done, the soul searching will prove to be worth it. One thing is for sure—if you start dating your friend, your relationship will change, for better or for worse. I'm already dating someone, and I like my best friend. If you date him, you could lose her friendship forever. We have so much trust with each other that I let him sleep with his girl best friend and he let me sleep with my boy best friend just as long as we have other friends with us. And you shouldn't just reject these guys because they like you and not your friend.
Chances are you've seen one another in and you've probably even met each other's exes. You don't have to worry about annoying him. A friend who is severely crushing on you will give you more attention than they will anyone else. So the guy has to go above and beyond what is normal. Do they touch your arm or hand during conversations when making a point or a joke? While a true friend will understand if you just don't feel that way and will hopefully get over it and move on, it's important to understand that it may take a while. They want to help and fix and assist in any way.
It's how humans work, our body language can totally betray us when we think we're playing it cool. She didn't blame her friend since she knew the guy liked the other girl. And you can't or shouldn't even want to change their minds. Ahead, find out how you can deal with this type of situation and move forward to mend what might be a broken heart. But physical proximity can be a hint, as well. Granted, if you go on two dates and realize there's no chemistry there, after all, you may be able to laugh it off and go back to business as usual. It may or may not be your feelings that are changing, but if it isn't yours then it's probably his.
Of course, it's no secret at that point. I like the idea of finding someone for your friend before you actually date this guy you like so much. They're just looking for a positive reaction but don't have the guts to tell you in an obvious way. Now, it is possible that this person is just a really good listener. Your feelings might be platonic, but women are extremely good at picking up on those sort of vibes as you probably know.
This happened to me, I liked this guy, but he liked my friend, then my friend started liking him. There's nothing wrong with that—especially since you might actually feel the same way. They might make flirtatious jokes or imply that you like them and then look for a reaction from you. When your guy friend has a thing for you, he might start apologizing for things that he doesn't need to. According to Hasha, any type of communication is better than none at all. He'll roll his eyes when you mention anything good about someone, and he'll also roll his eyes when you say anything that could be taken in a questionable way.
Should I drop it and wish them well? A person who is in love can often ignore the glaring faults of their beloved. Of course your friend is going to be hurt at first, but if she really is a good a friend as you make her out to be, she should be happy for you. It isn't her fault or his fault either. This passionate friend probably isn't someone you want to date. If your friend straight up tells you that they like you, take it seriously. Despite being extremely close to my family, I am yet to invite one boy with whom I have been romantically involved to meet them for fear that he would automatically assume I am deeply in love with him and want to get married tomorrow.
This usually only works out long term if there was zero chemistry to begin with, and it was a total joke that you ever tried dating. We're not talking about a situation where someone is embarrassed to be seen with you or anything like that. If you can feel that then it's there. If she really is a true friend, she has to understand that you can't pass up every opportunity you have with a guy just because she also thinks he's hot or whatever. You might deny that, but in reality, it happens a lot eve though people can have the best of intentions. The only thing missing with a boy and girl best friendship is the sex and if you add that to the equation it makes a whole world of a difference. It's not your awesome rack or fantastic smile that interests him, it's just you.
Also, consider how you would feel if the situation were reversed? She shouldn't be jealous or upset at you, once again, if she really is a good friend. I say she should go for the guy. But it might include trips that he'd like to plan in the future or just talking about day to day things like cooking. If you don't end up in that sort of a long term relationsihp with him, you will most likely break up and you may not have either him or your friend as you entered into this relationship at her expense and invested so much in your relationship with him while probably neglecting your relaitonship her. And if she tells you to go for it, do it.
In fact, we can, and often do, talk about pooping, burping and farting while talking with our mouths filled to the brim. People who don't tend to avoid making that kind of eye contact since it can send the wrong message. He's also probably well aware you guys have a 0 percent chance of having sex tonight. You want to have things in common with your significant other so you will try your best to make things work. In my mind, the person is obviously going to tell everyone.