But then the frustration set in. No amount of flirting made Jesus more desirable to him. If your identity is in Christ alone, then your life will automatically come into conflict with your non-believing girlfriend or boyfriend. But in His love, He also knows better than us. The truth is, God has more for you. I never would have considered dating a non-Christian. The idea of not seeing him again saddened me.
So when the opportunity arose, I figured I would just take things into my own hands. Consider the fact that God took six days to create the intricacies of the world around us. Our humanity all too often gets in the way of our relationship with Christ and His purpose and plan for our life. No matter how you choose to word it, being single was never in my plans. So, I made the decision to spend time with this guy and got to know him. If your heart is truly, genuinely, passionately in pursuit of Christ on a daily basis, then a non-believer — no matter how kind and caring and wonderful they are — can never truly know you. There seemed to be 10 girls for every single available guy in church.
If you need prayer or a listening ear about the struggles in your dating life, we have confidential and free mentors ready to help! Suddenly I got asked out in a grocery store line-up, and then at a dollar store. He had a great career and he truly could give me everything I ever wanted in this life. Worshipping the idea of marriage in place of our Creator places an expectation on that relationship to fulfill the deepest need in our hearts — which can only be filled by one person: Jesus. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? It started as impatience, but it soon developed into a rampaging beast of unbelief, doubt, and worst of all, hopelessness. While the first two dates were just awkward encounters that made me feel uncomfortable and probably caused my face to glow red for hours afterwards, the third guy peaked my interest. It felt like everyone I knew was married, including the kids I used to babysit.
We liked a lot of the same things, had good conversations, and he made me laugh. Then there was the pressure of every person I knew asking about my relationship status every time I saw them. And then when I turned 23, I was really ready. And he was pretty direct about his intentions. I was tossed into a sea of internal conflict. Yet the Bible records thousands of years of narrative to cover the ups and downs of relationships.
At 27, I understood and accepted that God was using the last few years to prepare me for marriage. It became hard to find peace between the God that I loved and this aching, unmet desire to find a companion. Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? But the reality is, more often than not, they are really great. Growing up in the church, I thought I had a solid understanding of how my story would play out. This tells us two things: one, that relationships are hard; and two, that God knows it.
Or mentioning their far-off distant relative who they thought might still be single which they never were , and who they could maybe one day set me up with which they never did. Ultimately, the status of his heart was a deal breaker, and I had to walk away. Our desires over His, our will over His: it's not a frivolous idea, but rather one that we are completely unable to fight through on our own. Then, a really nice guy I met in a coffee shop asked me out. Just connect below and you'll hear back from a mentor soon. We want you to know that you don't have to journey alone.
I liked the way I felt being around him. Especially when you watch every one of your friends get married or start a family. . Which is where the Holy Spirit comes in. Sure, he could have provided me with every luxury in this world — except the one thing that held the most value to me. The moment I made the decision to waver on something I always said I would never compromise on, the offers flooded in. .
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